The Holy Grail

to the three people who read this blog,

I'm sorry I have been away the last month. I've been finding pick up quite a bit boring lately, and I didn't get back into it until I was talking to a friend online the other day. I was voicing my frustration with the "easy" game women are forced to play. Men often ask me "you're into pick-up? why? all you have to do is smile." Yes men, but why do you make it so easy? Do you think that us women won't work for what we want?

No, it's because men think in the moment. They think, "wow I would take that girl home." Women, on the other hand think about the future; they ask, "is this is a potential boyfriend/mate." And as a result, men are the ones who have to work the hardest while women flash a smile and get what they want.

This is why I'm just not finding pick-up a challenge. I know, I shouldn't complain, but seriously when you're trying out a pick-up line and all you have to do is smile, it's frustrating. Also, I'm tired of every guy I meet wanting to sleep with me. I therefore took a boy hiatus and am now emerging feeling refreshed and ready to go again.

I wanted to share with you a conversation I had with a male PUA friend of mine who was describing the differences between men and women:

B- says: ok can I tell you a secret
Andrew D. says: You can tell me 6 secrets but not in a row, space them out
B - says: I don't even bother trying to get laid anymore because it bores me. Half the fun is the chase and dudes are boring
Andrew D. says: That's why men and women have different goals
B - says: I smile. . . they want to eff
Andrew D. says: The male goal is the vagina: the female goal is the ring
Blythe - says: no, that's not what I said
Andrew D. says: So a woman bragging about getting laid is like a man bragging about finding a woman who wants to get married
B - says: I like getting laid, but I like to play first. I like to know that I had to work for what I'm getting and that I deserve him as much as he deserves me, but I'm finding they're all the same.
Andrew D. says: Then you need to aim higher. That's where you're wrong. There are different levels of males
and what puts them at different levels is the quality of woman they can attain. At the bottom you got your middle eastern guys who wear lots of cologne, designer sunglasses and silk shirts with too many buttons undone. The higher up you go, the more benefits each fella has. The thing with gals is this:
you could show me to 5 of your friends and 4 would have the same response.
B - says: Response?
Andrew D. says: correct. 4 of your friends would have the same response from seeing me. 4 of them would say "He's not my type." That's just the way of the world. Meanwhile, I could show you to any 5 of my friends and they'd all wanna do ya. Just the way it is. So how does one appease these ladies? You get a guy who is everyone's type, and what would all girls agree is their type? A guy with money, an accent, good body, height, good face, does something artistic for a living or heroic and has a full head of hair. There's your holy grail, something to strive for. You want a chase, chase that. But word to the wise, good effin' luck cause guys like that are like the prettiest girl at the ball, they can have whatever they want. And you know what is better than your vagina? New vagina. hahaha so what happens then? You gotta cut corners and remove some stuff from your ideal fella. Then you know what happens? Some of your friends say "he's not my type."
life's funny that way.

Just a side note: Andrew is really interested in attraction theories and is ridiculously sharp. The catch is that he doesn't really care who he offends, so please don't take anything he says personally.

So there you go ladies. I think it's an important point to make as we all go out and look for the next cute guy to occupy our time. Why are we searching and what are we really looking for? Chances are he may not exist. Of course I'm not writing this to discourage you. It's more just a reminder to keep constantly reviewing and thinking about what exactly is it you want in a guy because your priorities will change over time. More importantly, if you're finding pick-up easy, take Andrew's advice and aim higher. . . . but not too high :)

B